Standards - everyone has them and they are essential in our world because they keep things in order and, basically, tell us what’s right and what’s bad. The term standard is associated with “rule”, “principal” and “ideal” which all have a more positive connotation. However, in the area of dating, when do these standards get in the way of a potential partnership? Are they known as false dating standards?
How to Know if Your Standards are Too High
With regards to the kind of people we wish to date and have a partnership with, there are particular qualities that we look for. Standards are utilized as the basis of judgment. But with regards to the requirements of individuals we would like to date and perhaps have a relationship with, this is known as dating standards. Please find below several examples showing these types of dating standards:
1. I would just go out with someone with a secure career.
2. I will just go out with somebody who is not selfish.
3. Go out with an individual if we have compatible personalities.
4. Just dating someone if he/she is mature mentally.
This list could go on and on but in the meantime, let us focus on the ones mentioned above.
Although the four standards mentioned previously are not too high, they can be completely different when you interpret them this way:
1. Just dating someone if she/he earns a minimum of six figures.
2. Date an individual who always puts me first.
3. I will only date somebody who has a compatible personality with mine - I have a checklist.
4. Just going out with somebody if she/he is mature emotionally and understands me completely.
If you interpret them this way then you probably have unreasonable dating standards.
So before making your dating standards, try to be reasonable. When it comes to making your dating standards, it's vital to be realistic and truthful. That way, your dating standards will not be too much. Your viewpoint of things will improve and your odds of finding a companion who will do the same for you will also improve.
Please Keep in Mind
Do not forget that whatever your dating standards are, they should not be too high. It would also help that you do a truthful assessment of yourself and find out if those standards were to be measured up to you. Having standards is not bad, certainly not. As long as your standards aren't unrealistic…that’s fine.